Many short video anchors always deceive girls: it's okay in the past, just coax men well to let go, having children can bind relationships, and financial independence can control marriage. These are all big cakes on paper, completely ignorant of human nature, and do not understand the marriage contract that has been passed down for thousands of years in ancient times. Today, we have uncovered the underlying truth and presented all the truths openly, without any extreme or empty words that those who understand cannot refute. First, distinguish between two types of women. The attitude towards men is vastly different, and the root cause is never double standards, but unequal sincerity in exchange. The first type is the yellow flower girl who holds the bottom line before marriage and is the only one from beginning to end. In the heart of a responsible and self respecting man, this woman entrusts her most precious and irretrievable youth and wholehearted devotion to herself, and the man will feel a sense of debt in his heart, believing that he owes her a lifetime. In the next few decades, even if girls have bad temperaments, occasionally argue, or even speak excessively, as long as they do not touch the extreme bottom line of gambling and repeated infidelity, men will actively accommodate and bow down to tolerate. This tolerance is not a disguise, it is a heartfelt appreciation. He knows how rare this unique trust is, and no matter how tired or bitter it is, he is willing to shoulder the family expenses alone, taking on all the heavy burdens of mortgage, child rearing, and elderly care. He is willing to provide for her for the rest of his life, treat her well and support her in old age, and will not give up halfway. Even if there is a conflict between husband and wife, they cannot bear to treat her coldly and harshly in their hearts, and prioritize caring for the woman in everything. The second type is women who have lived together for a long time before marriage and have had multiple intimate experiences. Women always feel that it's just the past, not worth mentioning, but the possessiveness and sense of belonging in a man's bones are the foundation that supports his lifelong struggle. Once it is known that the woman has wholeheartedly given her body and mind to others, a permanent wound in her heart is opened. The wound can barely stop bleeding, but it can never be fully sutured. This is a lifelong knot that cannot be untied. Don't believe the anchor's saying that "more coaxing and pleasing can smooth out the past". The scars on the heart are different from those on the skin. They may seem calm on the surface, but as long as a spark is triggered, all suspicions will surge: She casually took on the task ahead of time, and the man subconsciously compared himself, believing that he couldn't compare to the person she used to like; Keeping old photos and contact information on the phone will evoke infinite memories of the intimate moments between the two before; A little argument in daily life brings back all the grudges of the past, and the gentle preferences of the past disappear instantly, replaced by indifference, calculation, and vigilance. This knot cannot be resolved by the child either. Many people think that having a child can firmly bind a man, but they are completely wrong. Children can only maintain a superficial marriage for a short period of time, but cannot dispel the deep-rooted distrust in their hearts. Men's subconscious will always have doubts: she was able to easily leave her ex in the past, and in the future, she may also put aside this family and return to contact her old partner. This suspicion accumulates over the years and continues to cause internal friction. The once gentle and considerate good man will gradually become unfamiliar and selfish. From accommodating and actively coaxing you in the past, to settling accounts for everything and speaking coldly, dividing boundaries with you everywhere, unwilling to give unilaterally anymore. I used to be willing to bear all the wind and rain alone, but now I insist on spending AA and dividing household chores equally, no longer providing shelter for you alone. Some people may argue that as long as I am financially independent, I am not afraid of being abandoned when I get old and do not rely on men. The core marriage and love chips of women are their youthful appearance, fertility, and exclusive loyalty. Beauty will decline with time, and the physical damage caused by childbirth is irreversible. These two chips will be completely eliminated after middle age. If one had lost the most important trump card of "loyalty" in their early years and relied solely on savings for self-protection, they could only barely support themselves and could not have received genuine kindness from men. When young, with the blessing of appearance, men are still willing to endure and compromise; When a man grows old and loses his reproductive value, the two are already deeply estranged, without a single trust as the foundation of their relationship. The imbalance accumulated by the man for decades completely erupts, and abandonment and estrangement are inevitable outcomes. At that time, I only had savings in my hands and could only endure illness and loneliness alone. In my later years, I had no caring person to take care of me, and I would live a lifetime of grievances and regrets. There are also some girls who deliberately conceal their cohabitation and past, thinking that hiding for a lifetime can lead to a peaceful life, but in reality, the hidden dangers will only become bigger and bigger. Once the concealment is exposed, trust will be shattered completely, and the knot of heart will be ten times heavier than honest disclosure. Men may experience two layers of disappointment: one is the inability to accept their partner's past, and the other is the difficulty in forgiving long-term deception. In the future, there will be no more honesty between husband and wife. They will suspect each other in everything, and small things will be magnified infinitely. There will be constant arguments and cold wars within the marriage, and the days that could have been made do with each other will become full of thorns. The essence of marriage is never a one-sided unconditional favor, but a contract of two-way equal exchange. The ancient saying of sticking to one's loyalty has never been about kidnapping women alone, but rather a two-way constraint: women deliver their only loyalty for a lifetime, in exchange for men bearing the burden of supporting their families, providing for their retirement, and infinite tolerance; If a woman voluntarily breaks the contract and overdraws her emotional chips, a man will naturally unload the burden of bearing all the responsibility alone and demand that all the pressure be shared equally between the two. Don't live in the false dreams woven by short videos. Those anchors only try to please female traffic and avoid the cruel cost decades later. They only teach you how to coax people, compromise, and rely on economic independence to survive, but dare not tell you that the scars on your heart cannot be healed. A moment of casual happiness is exchanged for decades of marital estrangement, mutual calculation, middle-aged indifference, and old age loneliness. By the time we enter middle and old age in twenty or thirty years, the post-80s and post-90s generations will experience a large-scale collective regret. Looking back at these truths today, everything cannot be undone. 1. Dedicated and complete entrustment, in exchange for a man's lifelong accommodation and sole support, even minor conflicts can be tolerated; 2. A broken past creates a permanent knot in the heart, and the wound cannot be healed. No matter how much you try to please and persuade, it only treats the symptoms and not the root cause; 3. Appearance and fertility will both expire, relying solely on economic independence can only protect oneself, and cannot be exchanged for long-term preference; 4. Heart knots will not dissipate because of children, and long-term internal friction will wear away all the tenderness of men, making them selfish and indifferent; 5. Concealing the past will only deepen the rift, as it is a bargaining chip to overdraw before marriage, and in middle and old age, one has to pay for their entire life; 6. Without a unique sense of belonging, men will not be willing to bear the burden alone for a lifetime. AA partnership marriage is an inevitable outcome. Skin wounds can be stitched together, but scars in the heart will leave a lifelong imprint. Don't expect a few words of persuasion to erase the past