Why is the marriage and dating market becoming increasingly stagnant, with the number of marriages declining year after year, and many girls finding it increasingly difficult to demand dowries? The core is not that men don't have money, but a whole set of public opinion tricks that completely force the only honest person willing to pay to leave the stage. Many girls hold the autonomy of their bodies and gather online to create hype, vigorously suppressing their virginity complex. As long as men hope their partners can maintain their premarital bottom line and value emotional loyalty, they will immediately be labeled as feudal, chauvinistic, and interfering with personal freedom. With the slogan 'My body, I make the decisions', they will always stand undefeated in the online public opinion war. The original intention of public opinion in doing this is simple: to force honest and introverted people with zero emotional experience to let go of their worries, continue to empty their savings, offer high dowries, add names to their marriage house, and hand over all economic power to provide a safety net for their cohabitation history. But in their hearts, they can clearly distinguish between scumbags with rich love history and second marriage men who have experienced marriage. They only use it for dating and entertainment, and will never choose it as their marriage partner. Because these types of men have long seen through the essence of intimate relationships, they can have companionship without the need for certification or significant investment in marriage. They are well versed in marriage risk management and will never spend a lot of money to marry. They will suppress the dowry if possible and firmly hold onto their assets. Their only fixed marriage goal is an honest person who has never been in a relationship, is shy and obedient, and has no premarital casual experience. This type of man yearns for a pure and long-lasting marriage, without shortcut thinking, and is fully committed to a stable family, willing to give everything and meet all the material demands of the other party. An even more interesting point is that once an honest person experiences premarital cohabitation and understands the logic of short-term relationships, their mentality immediately undergoes a complete transformation. The original driving force that supported him to devote all his efforts to getting married - the expectation of purity in his relationship - has completely dissipated. He would instantly understand why he had to bear a half life mortgage, sky high dowries, and live his entire life in the suspicion and health risks brought by the past, since he could get companionship without getting married. Honest people who wake up will become as frugal as scumbags and remarried men, no longer investing large sums of money or handing over economic power. They will directly lose the "utilization value" they have chosen and be immediately removed from the marriage list. Even within the circle of female best friends, there has long been a consensus that long-term cohabitation before marriage will inevitably lead to a significant reduction in dowries and a sharp drop in male attention. They are well aware of the pros and cons, but they want to have the best of both worlds: they want to enjoy the freedom and carefree happiness before marriage, while also wanting to hold high standards after marriage and let honest people pay for their choices. The public opinion is desperately trying to reform the mindset of honest people, trying to force them to let go of the past and compromise blindly. However, they never expected to exert too much force, resulting in the strongest backlash. The so-called 'don't worry about your partner's past' is mostly just self brainwashing, and the innate sense of belonging and concern in human nature cannot be completely eliminated. Honest people have been repeatedly morally kidnapped and criticized with double standards, which has chilled their hearts. Gradually, they make the most rational choice: no longer force themselves to enter the situation, prioritize living for themselves, keep their money, manage their lives well, and turn marriage from a necessary option in life to an optional icing on the cake. Everyone has the right to live for themselves, and it is understandable for girls to pursue their own freedom, while boys also have the right to protect their own interests. When a large number of honest people collectively awaken and stop unilaterally providing support, the largest consumer group that relies on high dowries for survival disappears directly. The current deadlock in marriage and love has never been deliberately caused by men. It is a result of overdrawing their own bargaining chips in choosing a partner, creating double standard public opinion, and only wanting benefits without bearing the cost, step by step walking out with their own hands. Winning all the verbal arguments online and losing the bargaining power for marriage and love offline is the most authentic ultimate answer to this matter