Nowadays, emotional bloggers across the internet are advocating for premarital cohabitation and sexual freedom, working together to suppress men with virginity complex. As long as a man cares about a woman's past, he is immediately labeled as feudal, stingy, and chauvinistic. This public opinion only emphasizes women's freedom and rights, without mentioning the cost of equivalent exchange behind the scenes, which directly leads to the complete collapse of the marriage and love market. In the future, there are only two ways out for marriage and love: a nationwide AA system and a large-scale single trend, with no compromise or buffering options. 1、 In the past, the marriage and dating market was stable, relying on conservative women to support a complete foundation The essence of traditional marriage is equivalent exchange. Men empty the savings of several generations of parents, buy a house in full, offer high dowries, work hard to earn money for their entire lives, and provide for their wives, children, and elderly. Men give everything in exchange for two core guarantees: 1. The woman is faithful before marriage and has a unique emotional uniqueness; 2. Couples have children together and have children to accompany them in their later years. Bridal gifts, real estate, and long-term economic support are originally guarantees for women's fertility, household management, and lifelong companionship. In the past, conservative women who adhered to boundaries were the majority, and there was sufficient stock of yellow flowered daughters with balanced supply and demand. Marriage and love did not have serious internal conflicts, and there was no need to rely on hymen repair for speculation; Even for women who are remarried, there are a large number of traditional men who are willing to bear all the wedding expenses alone. 2、 Nowadays, the market is completely imbalanced: cohabitation has become mainstream, uniqueness has disappeared, and men only live together and do not want to marry Short videos have long brainwashed people with the belief that "cohabitation and trial marriage are innocent, and physical autonomy". Nowadays, in the blind date market, women with long-term cohabitation and multiple intimate experiences dominate, and there are significantly fewer girls who are dedicated to keeping the bottom line. The underlying rules that support traditional marriage are directly broken. The most intuitive reality in life that everyone can see: Many men are willing to live with girls for a long time, with no problem with daily companionship or sharing small expenses. However, once it comes to getting married with a license, having a full house, or receiving a large dowry, they immediately hesitate, retreat, and find excuses to refuse. The reason is simple and clear: Living together does not require risking the savings of several generations of the family, not having to bear decades of mortgage, and there is no risk of huge dowries; Marriage is a long-term game where men bet their entire family fortune, and the core chips of the game are the woman's loyalty and uniqueness. Pre marital cohabitation has long broken this uniqueness, and the most crucial guarantee for this marriage bet no longer exists. Men dare not and are unwilling to risk everything. This is also the common situation in blind dates: after a girl confesses her cohabitation history, the man will lower the dowry and refuse to buy a house alone to add a name. High quality men who are willing to fully cover their expenses will directly leave the scene. Many girls are unwilling to lower their standards for choosing a spouse and bear the pressure of mortgage and child rearing alone. They can only hope to rely on hymen repair to conceal their past, but this buffer road has now completely collapsed. 3、 Buffer channels completely disappear: The hymen repair industry has completely collapsed, with no more speculative shortcuts In the past, reconstructive surgery was a market buffer patch: girls with emotional past relied on surgery to disguise themselves as pure, in order to match men who were willing to pay the full RV dowry. This road is completely impassable now: 1. A large number of cases of concealment and deception have exhausted men's trust, and when discussing marriage, they collectively demand a complete premarital examination; 2. Surgery can only fake the appearance of newlyweds and cannot cover up the old gynecological traces left by long-term cohabitation and miscarriage, which are exposed in the morning and evening through prenatal and routine physical examinations; 3. The cost of deception is extremely high, and the marriage dividends that can be obtained continue to shrink. No one is willing to spend money to suffer, gambling on a lie that will eventually be exposed. The path of opportunism has been completely blocked, and now marriage and love are only about mutual defense and two-way games, with trust between men and women completely reduced. 4、 Currently, men are willing to accept cohabiting and remarried women, but they are only kidnapped by millennium old traditional beliefs There are still some men who are willing to tolerate cohabiting women, women with children in their second marriage, take the initiative to bear the dowry of the RV, and support the family for life. It is not a cost-effective marriage, but rather constrained by the old idea of "starting a family and passing on the family line", and stubbornly hold on for a while. Men have a clear understanding in their hearts: raising children and maintaining household expenses are astronomical figures, and all family savings are invested in marriage. If the woman does not have exclusive uniqueness, the relationship before marriage is casual, and she can withdraw and leave at any time after marriage, the man will ultimately end up with nothing but wealth. Even if children take their mother's surname, the losses and huge costs of childbirth and parenting still fall entirely on men. Simply comparing the pros and cons: Short term interaction experience is more cost-effective than emptying the family's finances and gambling on a marriage without a dedicated bond. However, traditional obsession has held back a large number of men, barely sustaining the shaky marriage market; When the new generation of young people wake up, the traditional all inclusive model will quickly disintegrate. 5、 Core truth: Breaking the uniqueness of women is equivalent to giving up the motivation for men's lifelong support The current public opinion has been exerting double pressure: 1. Promote women's complete freedom, bodily autonomy, and no need to stick to single-minded devotion; 2. Forcing men to fully tolerate all of the woman's past and not set a bottom line for choosing a spouse; 3. Resolutely resist the post marital AA system and still demand that the man fully pay for the house, receive a high dowry, and bear the entire family's expenses alone. Many girls have a huge misconception that pursuing premarital freedom is natural, and it is also natural for men to give everything they can to support themselves. They assume that men are inherently indebted to women, and regardless of their own emotional experiences, they should fully pay for marriage. The rules of the world are always equal, and it is impossible to monopolize both dividends. The core motivation for men who are willing to support their families for a lifetime is the single-minded devotion of their partners. Once this uniqueness is unilaterally broken, the foundation of men's unilateral efforts disappears, and with it comes the comprehensive irresponsibility of men. Since there is no exclusive guarantee of companionship, why demand that men bear all the financial burden alone? Women's freedom of choice is not restricted, and economic pressure cannot be solely borne by men. 6、 The blind spot of the vast majority of ordinary women: they only want freedom and cannot afford the corresponding cost of freedom Most girls only see the emotional relief brought by premarital freedom and cannot predict the long-term chain disaster: 1. Dismantle the market balance built by conservative women with one's own hands, and continuously reduce the exclusive female group; 2. Overthrow the bottom line of male mate selection with one's own hands, forcing men to gradually unload the responsibility of providing for their RV, dowry, and lifelong family; 3. With the popularization of the AA system and the expansion of the singles trend, there will be fewer and fewer men willing to fully support themselves.