Many people have been reversing the core truth of marriage and love. After reading these realities and underlying logic, I hope everyone can be convinced. The publicly available data from the Ministry of Civil Affairs is clearly in front of us: in 2013, there were 13.469 million marriage registrations nationwide, but after reaching its peak, it plummeted all the way. In 2024, there were only 6.106 million marriages, almost halving in just over a decade. At the same time, the proportion of young people living together before marriage is increasing year by year, and research shows that the proportion of pre marital cohabitation among the post-90s generation has reached 63.8%. According to research from multiple dating platforms, over 60% of young men are concerned about their partner's cohabitation experience, and 38% of men directly list having no cohabitation history as a mandatory threshold for choosing a partner, even higher than the proportion of those who do not accept divorce. Many men would rather remain single for their entire lives than settle for marriage. Many girls often say one thing: I marry a man to carry on the family line. To be honest, passing on the family line is not the obsession of contemporary men themselves. The vast majority of those who really desperately want to have grandchildren and continue the family line are elders from the generation of the groom's mother. In reality, countless cases have made it clear that many men are forced to get married and have children, not because they themselves crave for offspring. Most of the time, it is the elders who use the severance of the mother son relationship as a pressure to force their sons to complete the task of marriage and childbirth. Ask yourself, how many ordinary men who have been raised by their parents from childhood to adulthood dare to completely sever ties with their biological mothers? The vast majority of men are caught between their loved ones and their families of origin, and are forced to compromise. It is not that men are born with a strong desire to have children. What men truly desire is a pure and wholehearted companionship, where they take care of each other and live together in old age, rather than relying solely on having children to support themselves in retirement. Many men with favorable conditions, who have money and sufficient family resources, still voluntarily choose not to have offspring, which proves that reproduction is never a necessity for men themselves. In recent years, public opinion has continuously suppressed the bottom line of single-minded devotion, labeling the bottom line of choosing a partner that men value single-minded devotion and original intentions as feudal and outdated. This pure devotion was originally the most crucial trump card for honest people in the past who were willing to spend all their money, offer dowries, buy a wedding house, and willingly provide a complete guarantee. Honest people are the last resort in the entire marriage and dating market. After this trump card was slowly depleted, the honest person saw through and a large number of people collectively withdrew. Many people use childbirth as a bargaining chip and in turn kidnap men. There is a truth hidden here that few dare to speak frankly. Many people claim every day that having children is purely for men, sacrificing for their in laws' families, and losing everything for themselves. If childbirth is truly a loss without any personal gain, the simplest way out is to marry a divorced man with children. You don't have to suffer from pregnancy in October, and you don't have to bear all the costs of childbirth. But the vast majority of people, no matter what they say, will not take this path. The vast majority of divorced men with children are not willing to have another child with their partner. They already have their own flesh and blood, with no need for regeneration at all. Any reasonable man understands the immense pressure of raising children and is even less willing to have them again. The path of marrying in and having another child of your own is directly blocked. Men who take care of their children during their second marriage are unlikely to offer high dowries. You worked hard to help others raise their children, and the house and property were originally left to their biological children. When your appearance fades away and you get older, without any blood ties as a trump card, you may be excluded at any time in old age, empty handed, and unable to rely on anything. The sunset is very difficult. This account is clear to all women's minds. Nowadays, many girls are choosing a spouse, asking for a house, a car, and a high dowry. They have never seriously considered what kind of choices they have left if men who are willing to provide a backup leave in large numbers. The remaining options are mostly divorced men with children. These types of men will not give dowries, and most of them will not allow the woman to have another child of her own. If a man has no offspring of his own, he will acknowledge it. But women are born with the ability to have children, even though they can have them themselves, they ultimately do not have the opportunity to have a child of their own. Working hard to raise children for others, having no blood to support oneself in old age, and having no one to rely on for retirement. On the one hand, she talks every day that giving birth is for men, but on the other hand, once she falls on the path of becoming a stepmother, she won't even have the qualification to give birth. To put it simply, children are essentially a guarantee for women in their later years, not a gift for men. If having a child is just for the sake of having a family to rely on in the future, and you want this guarantee, you should have paid the corresponding cost yourself, instead of taking this matter and demanding a dowry from the man. Everyone has been completely miscalculating this account. The safest plan in their hands was to find a conservative and honest person. Honest people are the last breadwinners in the marriage and love market. The man takes out the wedding room and dowry, willing to raise their own children together, with both material and blood support, so that they can rely on each other in their later years. But now, the bottom line of loyalty that honest people value the most has been gradually eroded and stigmatized by public opinion. Honest people have seen through one group after another and gradually withdrawn from the marriage and dating market. Ma Baonan, who once supported the whole marriage market and was roast every day, will soon be cut off, and fewer and fewer men are willing to shoulder all the pressure unilaterally under the pressure of their parents. Feminism is being fought back and forth, and many people are not aware that the first thing to cut off is precisely women's own way out. If there are fewer and fewer honest people willing to take care of themselves, and everyone holds the mentality that having children is a sacrifice for each other, women are unwilling to have children, and in the end, endless chain problems remain. Everyone must distinguish one thing: reproduction is not a man's genuine need from the bottom of his heart. The majority of the pressure generated comes from the older generation, with only a small number of men forced by family pressure to compromise and get married and have children. More and more men are now seeing through the twists and turns inside. Once you get married, you have to offer high dowries, buy a wedding house, bear the heavy economic pressure for a lifetime, and also bear various invisible risks such as concealing the past, internal conflicts after marriage, and marital breakdown.