My husband had an extramarital affair during his childhood marriage, and the mistress acted like a mistress, even flaunting her power in front of her original partner The two of them were entangled for a long time, and eventually divorced After the divorce, the woman should have deleted everything related to the man. I used to have an original partner, WX, who was also deleted. I thought the matter would end here But during the Chinese New Year, the two of them actually came to our house together to pay New Year's greetings! I vaguely heard from my husband that the two of them might remarry, which was not surprising. They even went on a self driving trip with us. I thought the two of them were It's as good as ever During the self driving trip, the tone of communication between the woman and the man was always not quite right. When discussing some issues, the woman would occasionally make sarcastic remarks, which were full of sarcasm. My husband and I were also very embarrassed, so we had to shift the conversation question After returning from a self driving trip, there was a small gathering with my husband and friends, but the two of them didn't go, so they became a small part of the conversation. One of the friends mentioned that once when they called the man, the voice of the woman came from the other end of the phone: "Which woman did you call again Everyone says that the woman has changed, become neurotic, and disregards even the most basic dignity. Her words are somewhat pitiful towards the man, but he is his friend and it is understandable to stand on his side As a woman, I can understand her very well. I believe she must love this man very much, which is why she is in such pain And if the painful emotions have no outlet, they can only turn into sarcasm and hurt themselves and those around them over and over again She is the biggest victim of this incident, but the people around her rationalize her infidelity just because of her stance and one-sided words from the man. This is something I cannot understand, and she needs a long time to repair these damages on her own During our self driving trip, the woman and I added wx again. Yesterday, she posted on her WeChat Moments: 'I won't hit the south wall again.' I couldn't help but ask a question She said, 'He hasn't broken up with the mistress,' 'I was about to leave, but he went crazy looking for me again. He's so soft hearted.' 'Fortunately, I didn't have the impulse to remarry.' I replied to her: If the wound has already begun to scab, don't tear it open repeatedly, otherwise it will not heal forever I don't know if she can understand this sentence As the youngest wife of his ex husband, I couldn't say too much to her because our relationship wasn't that good, and I wasn't sure if she could understand my intentions based on her understanding, so I chose to keep quiet But as a woman, I still want to express some of my own opinions: When a person knows that this will cause harm to you, but still chooses to do it, at this point you have already been abandoned. Choosing to forgive is just adding chips to their second hurt to you A person who has hurt you will only hurt you repeatedly, and what we need to do is to stay away from such people (source network)