📍New Zealand Parenting Diary Day 7｜In the church, by the sea, and beside my child, I rediscover the "power of softness"

A week has actually passed quite quickly. The child is still adapting, but I feel like I am slowly being drawn into the rhythm of this country.

Occasionally, I have a fleeting illusion of "may this moment last forever": no rush, no impatience; with beautiful scenery, love, and peace, this feeling is hard to find back home.

1️⃣ The freedom of choice!

If my family were here, with a computer in hand, having some quiet time each day to write, take walks, listen to music, drink coffee, and ideally adopt a few kittens, that would be the greatest satisfaction.

For example, right now I am at the seaside watching the tide recede, with a lush green field and flower beds behind me, and no one around to disturb me; when I feel like writing, I write, and when I don’t, I can just lean back and gaze at the sea or the grass, which is also quite nice.

The freedom of rhythm actually comes from the freedom of choice!

Many people envy this lifestyle of digital nomads—working while traveling, staring at the sea, drinking coffee, and raising cats.

But the essence of this "relaxed feeling" is not "easy" or pretending to be easy; it is the freedom of "choice": I can write today, or I can choose not to; I can walk, or I can sit down. It’s not that time has increased, but rather that the initiative in life has returned more to my hands.

It’s more about a change in mindset!

Many people here are like this; the environment can shape people, so it may be easier to reach this state. However, we can also achieve this back home; we need to think more: can I give myself a little room for choice?

A friend said: the world is vast, and we should see how others live; we have many possibilities. Not being limited by the workplace may be the greatest benefit for us digital nomads—brief tranquility, beautiful experiences, and lasting memories; you can dig into your memories to find the best version of yourself!

2️⃣ A reunion of ten thousand kilometers:

Last week, I wanted to give my child more of an experience—how children go to school here, what peers his age are doing in other parts of the world, allowing him to see different possibilities that may heal his heart at some point in his growth.

The weekend was a wonderful experience; I met some friends who are hard to gather with back home but are here in a foreign land thousands of kilometers away. This feeling is quite magical, even a bit surreal, as if it were happening in a parallel world.

Like attracts like; I could feel everyone’s sincerity, which is an indescribable fate, a chemical reaction that occurred at that moment.

Additionally, on Sunday, I took him to church to learn English and experience the charm of the church and religion;

The child managed to stick it out for the whole morning, and I felt genuinely happy inside. The English class was a bit challenging for him, and he didn’t quite understand everything, but during the interaction, under the guidance of the teacher, he was occasionally able to express some of his true thoughts with words, which was quite good.

3️⃣ Faith in LOVE AND PEACE:

I really like the atmosphere of the church; it was my first experience of this kind, and I could feel love and acceptance from the bottom of my heart. I can also understand why these things can help the world gradually become better; we should be grateful for these beautiful things from the heart.

A friend prayed for me at the church, and it was my first time receiving someone else's prayer. I think that feeling was quite shocking; I can't describe it, but what flowed from my heart and the tears at that moment were genuine, and I may forever remember that instant.

I suddenly understood that faith does not necessarily have to be a fixed theological identity; it is more like a posture: at the moment you are willing to be gently touched by the world, faith appears.

We have been educated to be atheists since childhood, and we live in a place lacking faith. Perhaps we don’t need to force ourselves to believe in something, but that doesn’t mean we should close our hearts; we should not close ourselves off from the perception of kindness and the sacred.

Every culture and worldview flowing through the world may contain immense energy, and I think I will always be grateful for my open heart!

Years ago, during my low point, I read an essay by the elder Ji Xianlin that said: "My heart is soft yet powerful." I hope that both I and my child can become such people; we will have our own understanding and perception, but we should also be open-hearted to embrace the world, after all, the world is so beautiful!

May we always retain the ability to be "gently touched by the world."

免责声明：本文章仅代表作者个人观点，不代表本平台的立场和观点。本文章仅供信息分享，不构成对任何人的任何投资建议。用户与作者之间的任何争议，与本平台无关。如网页中刊载的文章或图片涉及侵权，请提供相关的权利证明和身份证明发送邮件到support@aicoin.com，本平台相关工作人员将会进行核查。